What INFPs Never Tell You: Understanding Their Internal Struggles

As an INFP, if I don't tell you, you don't need to know! We do not share everything or seek validation through constant reassurance. We are individuals who make decisions with introspect and self-awareness, often relying on our internal compass rather than external opinions.

When it comes to relationships, we tend to keep a lot to ourselves. Our internal insecurities and worries are deeply rooted and often remain hidden. Here are a few internal struggles that many INFPs share:

Fear of Rejection and Isolation

In my experience, I have a deep-seated fear that the people I befriend might eventually lose interest in my companionship and choose to leave me. This fear has its roots in an underlying insecurity that has been with me since I can remember. To avoid this emotional pain, I tend to grow distant from others before they can do the same. This self-destructive behavior is a result of a chronic fear of rejection that is hard to pinpoint.

Enduring Loyalty and Support

Even when I withdraw from a person, my loyalty and support remain unwavering. I am always supportive and open to everyone I befriend. I will answer with care and assistance if someone needs me, regardless of how silent I may have been towards them. This is because, deep down, my feelings about the relationship have not changed, unless there has been a significant shift in my perception of them. This loyalty is incredibly difficult to shake, which can be both a blessing and a curse.

Struggling with Self-Deprecation and Validation

My self-depreciation and need for external validation often make me feel like I am constantly seeking attention. However, the reality is that my self-perception is severely tainted, and I struggle with doubts about my worth as a friend or companion. Compliments from others can be a shock and almost unbelievable. I often question whether my friends truly want to spend time with me, leading me to confirm their intentions to avoid coming across as annoying or needy. This constant validation and reassurance is not about attention but about a deep-seated need for self-validation.

Overthinking Every Interaction

I overthink every interaction with people to the point where it becomes an overly dramatized and often negative recount of the genuine situation. Even small interactions, such as embarrassing moments or potential offenses, can be exaggerated in my mind. Most of the time, these moments are far less significant in reality, but my brain convinces me otherwise. This overthinking often leads to anxiety and self-doubt, making it challenging to see things as they truly are.

Internal Struggles Across the INFP Community

While these are personal experiences, they are not unique to me alone. Many INFPs share similar internal struggles, driven by a fear of burdening loved ones with their thoughts. We strive for perfection in ourselves but value imperfection in others. Our deep emotional and intellectual sensitivity leads us to appreciate and love every side of those we care about. However, the fear of negative self-revelation is a common challenge that can make us feel isolated.

The key takeaway is that these internal struggles are a result of our sensitivity and self-awareness. By understanding these emotions and discussing them openly, we can foster a deeper connection and empathy within our communities.