Returning Home After Military Service: Support for ‘Lonely Soldiers’ and Beyond

Introduction

Returning from military service is a challenging and often lonely transition for many veterans. For those who return home to face an empty house or a lack of support, the return to civilian life can be particularly difficult. In this article, we will explore the concept of 'lonely soldiers'—a term frequently used in the context of Israeli military service—and discuss the support programs designed to help these soldiers reintegrate into society.

The Lone Soldier Experience

Imagine a scenario where you have spent years in military service, yet upon your return, there's no one waiting for you at home. This was the reality for many veterans, including the author, who found themselves in a world of group homes and foster care, with no genuine support or love. The author's experience reflects a common theme among returning soldiers who feel let down by the promises of 'welcome back' celebrations and the reality of their isolation.

The term 'welcome back' often masks the truth. In many cases, it is a mechanism to ease the guilt of those who shirked their duty or were too afraid to serve. True brothers in arms who genuinely cared about the soldier's safe return are the ones who should be relied upon for support. However, these are often few and far between. Smiles and well-wishes may be abundant, but meaningful support is scarce, especially during critical times in life when stress and trauma are at their peak.

Returning to Civilian Life: A Different Reality

For the author, the transition back to civilian life was not about immediate family reunions or joyous homecomings. After multiple tours of duty, the author was single, with children not living with them, and living alone. Instead of expecting a warm welcome, the focus shifted to responsibilities and the fulfillment of duties. The author describes the process of returning, handing over equipment, ensuring the well-being of their troops, and then enjoying a solitary moment of peace. These experiences highlight the serious and often understated nature of the transition process.

Israel's 'Lonely Soldiers' Programs

In Israel, the issue of 'lonely soldiers' is particularly acute, leading to the development of support programs designed to aid those who may be estranged from their families or from the broader community. Israel's program, known as Hushi'im (literally, 'lonely' in Hebrew), is a comprehensive initiative that provides both financial and moral support to these soldiers.

Financial Support: The program includes additional allowances for soldiers who may not have family support. Financial assistance is vital for those who must fend for themselves in a new environment or for those who may be struggling to integrate into society. Additionally, the IDF provides off-base housing options to ensure a stable environment.

Moral Support: Each unit has an HR clerk responsible for monitoring the well-being of these soldiers. The program aims to create a sense of community by placing soldiers in shared living situations. Foreign Jewish volunteers, in particular, receive a preseasoned support network, starting with pre-departure gatherings and onboarding in Israel. The IDF also takes steps to help these volunteers integrate by pairing them with adoptive families in kibbutzim and providing intensive Hebrew language training.

The IDF goes to great lengths to ensure that these soldiers feel supported. They are entitled to annual leave to visit with their families, and the army covers travel expenses. Moreover, some organizations arrange for parents to come for visits and participate in special events such as graduation ceremonies. These efforts are designed to create a sense of belonging and community, making the transition back to civilian life more manageable.

Conclusion

Returning from military service is an arduous journey, and for some, it is a journey without companionship. The programs in place, such as Israel's 'lonely soldiers' initiative, demonstrate the importance of community support in the reintegration process. Whether through financial or moral support, these programs aim to minimize the loneliness and challenges faced by these soldiers. It is essential that we recognize the sacrifices made and support those who serve us.