My Experiences as a Canadian Visitor to the United States: Friendliness, Poverty, and Humor

As a dual citizen, my natural movement between Canada and the United States is a testament to the welcoming nature of both countries. However, my recent trip for a quick errand to the US highlighted some unexpected realities that have since altered my approach to visiting.

Caution and Cautionary Tales

During a brief trip to pick up items unavailable in Canada, one encounter particularly stands out. On entering the United States, I was immediately met by a large billboard with the name TRUMP in oversized letters—a stark reminder of the political climate I hadn't anticipated. This experience instantly evoked the sense of caution I once had while living in the US, characterized by a blend of friendliness and a concern for personal safety, especially given the common carrying of firearms.

Reverting to a Survival Mindset

To mitigate the potential risks, I adopted a humorous approach, joking with servers at bars and restaurants that if I were to have a heart attack, they should simply call a taxi to take me back to the border, ensuring I received the medical care I needed closer to home in Canada. This mindset, though lighthearted, reflects a deeper need for caution that has now influenced my visits to the US, making them far less frequent and more reserved.

Friendliness vs. Poverty

Despite the cautionary mindset, my interactions with Americans on the majority of occasions have been overwhelmingly positive. Upon crossing the border, the friendliness and politeness of the people became an immediately noticeable difference. In a stark contrast to the perception in some quarters, my interactions with a wide swath of the US population, from small towns to bustling metropolitan areas, were marked by genuine warmth and helpfulness.

Unexpected Encounters in Poverty-Ridden Neighborhoods

One of the most striking aspects of my travels has been the stark contrast between the friendliness of the people and the poverty that often surrounds them. In cities like New York, Chicago, and Washington DC, I have frequently experienced areas of extreme poverty just a few blocks away from what is otherwise a safe, prosperous environment. Despite this, the people I encountered in these neighborhoods often proved to be friendly and helpful, even when down on their luck.

For instance, in St. Louis, Chicago, and New York City, I encountered numerous instances where locals who struggled with poverty were still willing to assist me with directions, much to the surprise and positive impact on my journey. These experiences underscore the resilience and positive spirit of many Americans, providing a rich layer to the visits that goes beyond mere poverty.

The Bittersweet Experience

While the friendliness and helpfulness of the people are undoubtedly the most positive aspects of my US visits, it is also important to acknowledge the less savory contrasts. Cities like New York and Chicago, often portrayed as cold and heartless, surprised me with their overwhelming friendliness and positivity, even in the most unexpected settings.

Cultural and Personal Reflections

Another striking observation was the often striking ignorance of Americans regarding other parts of the world. I encountered this in various settings, including restaurants and shops, where their focus on large serving sizes rather than quality food was evident. However, despite these cultural differences, the level of hospitality and professionalism in service industries was generally highly appreciated.

Conclusion: Nostalgia for Home with a Fondness for Visits

Ultimately, while I fully embrace Canada as my home, the cultural richness and warmth of the United States continue to draw me back. However, my trips are now more mindful and value the positive interactions, even in the face of challenging realities. This balance between home and visitation is a testament to the unique and enriching experiences that each country offers.